I know it has been a long time since I’ve written a post but to be fair, I have had to put a lot of things on the back burner and readjust my lifestyle due to health and a super busy schedule. I am also changing up my brand and was going to wait to start posting again but I was recently inspired by a deep intellectual conversation that I had with one of my really close friends so I decided that now, with my thoughts fresh in my mind, would be a good time to go on a boast.
Every Friday, I have my “date nights” on the phone with my friend Weiler as he drives up to Collingwood. It’s funny because even Jon says, “Have a good date night with Weiler!” when I talk to him on Friday’s mornings. We all used to hang out a lot, so Weiler and I have grown to be great friends throughout my relationship with Jon and probably the only one of his friends that has been open to getting to know me, for me. I call him my best girlfriend. Sometimes my offspring. And sometimes the male version of me…. which I shouldn’t admit out loud. (haha) Anyway, we got on this discussion about people being judged before knowing them, which is something I can relate to way too much. Obviously being a blogger, I get judged. People don’t see my “real” moments, but more so the entertaining brand of myself. Even Weiler didn’t know that I had several scholarship offers to University as I always planned to get my PhD, and only decided to not go because I wanted to go for me, and not because it’s something everyone else thought I should do. How did this all come about? Well, I will be the first to admit that I say a lot of things before fully processing them before they come out of my mouth. Sure, I say some pretty stupid things, but isn’t it ridiculous that people immediately write me off as a dumb-blonde bimbo before ever meeting me, or getting to know me outside of my “Chantilliscious” brand. If I’m not written off as a dumb-blonde bimbo, it’s usually a stuck up, rich bitch. Then I open my mouth, and people realize that I am the last person to ever put myself higher than someone else. And rich? My lord, I wish! I ask my Dad for $5 and I still get told to mow the lawn. haha
It’s crazy that people often judge without knowing anything about a person. I remember when I was 15 and was dealing with a family member’s suicide attempt. I was at the mall and completely dead to the world. Lost in myself and my thoughts, and as I carried on throughout my day, I thought about all the people I passed in that mall, that had absolutely no idea what was going on in my life or the way I felt. It just goes to show that you never know what someone is going through, or has been through or feels.
I think that everyone needs to take a step back and judge less each and every single day, until you no longer judge. I have learned that giving people the benefit of the doubt, is the most important thing you can offer someone. I have been through hell and high waters in my life, that only people extremely close to me know about, as they were around me at that time, so when I speak to you, I am often speaking from first hand experience.
I have been judged.
And I have judged.
I don’t always know everything that you may want me to, but if there’s anything that I can teach you, it’s to always place yourself in the other person’s shoe, whether it be the cranky cashier at the grocery store, or the eager driver riding your ass on the highway. You never know, maybe that cashier just lost a loved one and that eager driver is late for his best friends funeral.
I used depressing examples, I know, but it’s real life and people often forget that real life involves real feelings. Be kind and courtesy to those around you and open your arms to each and every individual.